What Did I Say?

What Did I Say?

If there was ever a question of, does God have a sense of humor? The answer is absolfuckinglutely! Why would He or She (whatever your view is) create two genders of the same species, that need each other, yet have such a hard time communicating? Now, I didn't say it was a funny joke, but the situation is a joke. 

We've all heard the phrase; men are from Mars, women are from Venus. That seems to be the running excuse for why there's this prominent communication problem. If I were to venture a guess, I would say that age old reason would account for maybe, hmm... 30% of the problem, perhaps 65% is lack of honesty and the other 5% for purposely being encrypted.  

I understand everybody lies. Some lie or "bend the truth" to spare someone's feeling. On the other end of that spectrum, some lie just for the sake of lying. But have we've become so arrogant and fear rejection so greatly that a large amount of us lie to get what we want; regardless of how it could possibly damage another person? 

As of late, it seems I've been having a breakdown in communicating with a few individuals. I make it a habit to be upfront and honest about my intentions, if you will. Also my position and opinion on different subjects. With that being said, I get that not all women are clear about what they want. Hell! Not all people are clear about what they want. No matter how rare, I express that I'm being completely honest and as transparent as I can be. There's no need for interpretation! There's no encrypted message, no guessing games! So when I say "I'm not trying to be with anyone, right now". I mean just that! It doesn't need to be translated or interpreted to mean "Hell nah! I don't want to be with you!" I'm not rejecting you as a person, cause I don't think you're not good enough. I'm trying to heal and I feel it would be irresponsible to start a new relationship when I'm not emotionally ready. Unfortunately, it hasn't been perceived as such.

Now I'm sure most men have been trying to decipher "Venusian" or "the language of women". Just like women have been plagued with overthinking, trying to translate "Martian" or "the language of men". What happened to communicating like the humans that we are? Nowadays we have to speak a number of languages. I myself, am "multilingual". Because I'm female I'm fluent in "Venusian" and "passive aggressive". Thanks to my family, I'm also quite fluent in "sarcasm". I'm slowly, but surely learning "Martian" and Italian. I occasionally get a whiff, but can't seem to appreciate "bitchassanese" though.

My point is. If we all began to make it a habit to say what we mean and mean what we say. Perhaps there would be less confusion.