It's Okay!

It's Okay!

I was watching "Failure to Launch" (What a surprise! A woman watching a "chick flick") Lol! Though it's not by any means my favorite genre of movies, I do occasionally indulge. There was a scene where there's a black couple watching the main couple makeup. The black man made the statement "I don't usually like reality shows, but this is so emotional!" All the while with tears in his eyes. His companion in turn looked at him and said "Are those tears in your eyes?" Basically ridiculing him for showing heartfelt emotion. It made me think... why is it soooo frowned upon, damn near taboo for men to cry or show an emotional, other than joy or anger? 

Think about it. When a man displays an emotion that's heartfelt or romantic, some if not most of society automatically thinks... "Oh, he must be gay", "Geeze! Someone's being a drama queen!" or "You need to man up!" My question is why displaying emotion, synonymous to being female or having more estrogenic qualities? Are men not human?

 In complete and total honesty, I myself hate crying. Eventhough I'm a woman, so somehow my gender grants me this special pass to do so and not be judged or ridiculed as harshly. It's a double standard that needs to stop. We're ingraining in our sons that crying is wrong. That crying makes you less than a man. Basically we're teaching that men need to be less than human. Yet women are looking for a man with sensitivity? Really?!

So let me get this straight. 

1. Men aren't accepted as being "manly" if they show emotion other than joy or anger.

2. We ladies, want a man to understand and empathize with our feelings. (Nevermind in order to empathize, you may have to experience those feelings)

3. So basically we want a gentleman/thug, that doesn't show a range of emotion, but has to understand ours.

All righty then! Are you men ready to sign up?