Does size matter? (Not what you're thinking)

Does size matter? (Not what you're thinking)

I remember years ago, a best friend of mine was over to my place for dinner and enjoying my company and posed a question to me. Does the size of the ring really matters? I immediately responded "No it doesn't. At least not to me." I don't think it matters to most women than most would imagine it does. Oddly he seemed surprised at my answer. I wasn't sure if it was cause he thought I wasn't being honest, though I never gave him a reason to think I would be anything less than honest with him. Or if he genuinely believed all women cared bout the size of the diamond or carat amount in her engagement/wedding ring. Seeing the utter amazement and disbelief in his eyes, not to mention his dropped jaw, I had to break it down for him. So I told him of the beautifully romantic story of my parents, who have been married for thirty-eight years.

My father was never a rich man, money wise, but he is wealthy in heart and soul. He's smart, well spoken, a gentleman and a free thinker. I'm proud to say those awesome traits were passed on to me. My mother possess those same traits so it would've been a tragic phenomenon if I wasn't born with them, or at least developed them at an early age. Ahh, common sense! It's like the nectar of the Gods. Oh, damn! Let me get back to my story. So my father was a far cry from being rich, money wise, but he wanted to propose to my mother. He couldn't afford a ring, so he purchase a sterling silver necklace that had small heart pendant and in the heart housed a tiny chip of a diamond in it. Of course my mother said yes, cause she loved the man he is. It had nothing to do with the size of any diamond. After telling that story to my friend, I could see his eyes slightly soften. Yet he still didn't seem totally convinced. So I elaborated my view on the subject. I told him for me it wouldn't matter if the ring didn't have a diamond at all. Immediately I saw his eyes trying to picture a solitaire style ring sans the diamond. He asked "What do you mean no diamond?" I told him "For me, it could be just a simple band. Cause I'm more into what the ring represent. It symbolizes that a man really saw who I am and doesn't want to live his life without me by his side. That's far more precious than any diamond in the world." 

Oddly after that romantically, truthful, heartfelt answer, my friend still had some questions. Wasn't my parents story not proof enough? Hell, wasn't my answer not proof enough? I listened to his question, cause hey, I'm all for answering questions to the best of my ability. What question could he possibly have anyway? He asked me. "Well when you women see the ring and it's huge don't y'all think, Man, he really loves me?" I couldn't refute that. I mean let's be honest ladies, if your man presented you with a two carat or more ring, you're gonna think "Goddamn! This man loves the shit outta me! Hell yeah, I got that two carat pussy!" It's cool. gone ahead and admit it. I won't tell anybody. All I could say is "Yes a woman would naturally get excited, but you can't measure a man's love by the size of the diamond he presents to you." Even after that, he still had a follow up question. At this point, I was starting to question my eloquent, prowess in presenting my point of view.

"Wouldn't a woman think, if a man gave her a ring with a little diamond means he doesn't really love me or thinks we won't work out, so why waste the money?" As I had been, I spoke the truth and I retorted with "Little ring just simply means little money, but it doesn't mean little love." That seem to sink into his cerebellum, so I took the opportunity to honestly add. "I'd rather he use the money on a house, investing in his business or to the start of owning his own business." With that finish I finally slayed the beast of doubt.