Would You Date You?

Would You Date You?

It's funny how many dating and relationship articles and books are out there. Think about it. It's almost impossible to avoid coming across a magazine, book or social media link to an article, telling you the do's and don't's of romance. Now I know what you're thinking. "Aren't you doing the same thing?" Well... I guess I am. Oops!

But my question is. Among all the do's and don't's why haven't I seen the advice of get to know yourself, first? So many of us go from relationship to relationship with barely a break in between. Leaving bits and pieces of ourselves with the last beau. Picking away at ourselves, trying to fill a void with someone, anyone. When the void can only be filled by yourself. Take the time to rediscover yourself. Learn who you are by yourself. 

Now trust me. I know it can be scary, especially if you're used to always being in a relationship. But if you're constantly finding yourself in a string of unsuccessful relationships. Don't you think trying something different is in order? I mean Hey! Performing the same action over and over, but expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity. So how bout you regain your sanity. If you're willing to do for others, why not do something not only helpful, but healthy for yourself? 

So you're probably wondering, where do you start. For myself I started with the realization that being alone and being lonely are two very different things. There are so many things you can do by yourself, but most are terrified to try. Mainly because they're afraid how others would view them. For instance. I've gone to movies alone. Sat at a restaurant and ate dinner alone. I've even gone to a bar by myself. Not in attempt to meet anyone, but to enjoy myself. There's no rule that says you have to be coupled up to have a good time. I have to admit the first few times felt weird and I felt people were possibly judging me, but I figured to Hell with them. I'm doing this for me. Besides, if I don't like or wouldn't date myself, how could I expect anyone else to want too? If you do find yourself getting lonely. Well this is where your friends can help with that. 

Being single has given me the opportunity to find out who I am, heal and unpack some of my baggage. True, everyone will always have some baggage, but it's up to you how much you wanna carry. It's not fair to expect someone else to carry your baggage. So take some time. Cleanse your soul and find yourself, before you give the broken pieces of what's left of you to someone else.